Everyone talks about how fast college goes by and tells you to hold on to every moment of it. Let me tell you, I’m only a Freshman and I already know that it is SO TRUE. I think the reason it feels so fast is because so much happens. I feel like four years worth of learning has been packed into two semesters and they aren’t over yet! Not just academically, but socially, emotionally, spiritually, just everything.
Here’s the biggest thing I’ve discovered thus far: college is the ultimate Limbo State…well I guess I shouldn’t say ‘ultimate’ – I don’t know what else life has in store for me – but compared to the other 18 years of my life this classifies as ultimate. The Limbo State is one of the biggest reasons college is so much fun, but it is also one of the biggest challenges. It’s the Limbo State because being a kid and being an adult are both fair game. At any moment of my day I can ask myself, “Do I want to make the wise, grown-up decision here? Or do I just want to goof off and be a kid for a little while.”
|Being a Kid
1-I’m going to go play ultimate Frisbee.
2-I’m going to rock out to loud music in my dorm because I can!!!
3-I’d just like to watch Frozen right now.
4-My suitemates and I are pulling an all-nighter to have a movie marathon!
5-I’m going to ignore that email to talk to financial aid, it scares me.
6-I really don’t want to confront that friend who is mad at me.
7-I’m eating ice cream at every meal today!!
8-I just want to sleep!!!
|Being an Adult1-I’m going to begin writing that paper that is due in two days.
2-I’m going to rock out to music within the volume range of my room so I don’t annoy my suitemates.
3-I’m going to go to sleep.
4-I’m going to go to bed at a reasonable hour.
5-I’m going to talk to financial aid now and get it over with!
6-I need to talk to that friend so we can reconcile.
7-I’ve already had ice cream once today, I should probably hold off.
8-At this point I need to study for my test tomorrow at least a little before I sleep.
Notice how more than one of those was basically the question, “to sleep or not to sleep?” Yeah, you’ll find that happens a lot in college.
I am a type-A personality and when I got to college I was really excited to be on my own and taking control of my own life. I found that I was pretty good at choosing the adult decision most of the time, but I started noticing that lots of people weren’t anywhere near getting out of kid mode. Was I getting ahead of myself, I wondered? Were they just way behind? How do I interact with someone when they want to be a kid and I want to be an adult? I think I’m beginning to find the answer: Both are great! Yes, college is the time for becoming an adult and when you are on your own you have to own up to your own mistakes and make sure you stay on top of things. But, don’t get ahead of yourself! After college you will never again have the chance to be a kid, so enjoy the comparative lack of responsibility. Choose times to stay up late and do crazy things with your friends. Some of my best memories from this year so far come from times when I decided to let go of my adult mentality and enjoy being a kid. Then again, some of my deepest friendships have become established through more serious conversations. The point is you have to be balanced.
Confession: I’m really bad at being balanced; I have a tendency to go into adult mode a lot. But I am learning to choose moments to loosen up and be a kid for a while. The Limbo State creates some tension, but learn to accept it and enjoy the ability to decide when to take on responsibility and when to leave it be, we won’t always have that choice.
Here’s to 3 more years of Limbo State!
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